It used to be that whenever I heard an anti-gay bigot say hateful things, I felt an equal sense of hostility towards them, but then it hit me that my feeling anger towards them made me their equal; I hated them for being hateful, which was both ironic and redundant. That’s when I realized that what I actually felt towards them was more so a bitter sadness, because I wasn’t able to fathom that someone could go through life with a constant vendetta against people they don’t even know based on antiquated principles.
There are obviously things that are morally unforgivable (murder, pedophilia, elevating YouTube personalities to celebrity status, etc.), but allowing two people to signify and legalize their love for each other with a piece of paper? That’s not something I care enough about to protest.
I’ve long said that I’m anti-marriage, but pro-marriage equality, because it’s wrong, in my opinion, for marriage be a monopoly; marriage doesn’t personally affect me, just as it doesn’t personally affect anti-marriage equality crusaders, but the difference is I believe people have an intrinsic right to be happy, which should be echoed legally. Those opposed to homosexuality think they’re “protecting the sanctity of marriage,” but what they’re really doing is sanctimoniously depriving their fellow human beings of gaiety. There’s a certain amount of irony that goes along with anti-gay advocates saying that gay people infringe upon their rights, but absolutely don’t see how hypocritical it is that they’re trying to take away the basic civil rights of others, particularly the LGBT community.
What I’ve learned is that civility, not enmity, is required in order to progress both personal and social attitudes. What I care about more than anything is living a life that’s beneficial to not only myself, but also to others. I’m not perfect and I’ve got a lot of work to do, but in the meantime, there’s no harm in trying to better the lives of everyone else.